My day tomorrow is the perfect example of the fine line we tread between ourselves as adults and ourselves as parents. I'm sure you can relate. The mini man of the house is a bit of a Wiggles fan, OK slight under exaggeration, he's a Wiggles aficionado so as a special treat for him and Miss COTU I've managed to snaffle some hot potato tickets and we will be kicking back and taking in the show. I will be leaving the venue to hook up with my main man so I can surprise him with a nice hotel room and tickets to U2. It is himselfs' birthday on Friday so I took the opportunity to treat him and give us some alone time, well as alone as you can be in a stadium full of U2 fans, it's the thought that counts right?
This year has been a roller coaster for us as a couple and as parents, we've been so focused on our role as parents and meeting our childrens' needs that our needs as a couple have become secondary. There has been a slow disconnect as we've struggled to expend the emotional energy as primary caregivers for our children. When the day ends and the crisis is postponed for another day, exhaustion, both mental and physical sets in and once again you rely on the existing bond to carry you through.
Eventually though just as we slough our skin and change our identity through our experiences we need to refresh and renew our relationship as a couple not just as co-parents. Sometimes we acknowledge why we fell in love originally and infuse that attraction with a new energy to enable your relationship to grow and enrich your life.
So once again we'll flip from parents to lovers and the challenge will be to leave the parenting behind and recognise each other as friends and lovers.
Time to fall in love all over again.