If you read no other post can I suggest that you read this one. That Lori is an incredibly inspiring and brave woman is without question but this post is so raw that it is confronting in its honesty from a survivors point of view. Lori is uniquely balanced in that she has danced both sides of the fence.
We as a society are conditioned to suppress our true emotions, we touch upon issues but we don't really lay it bare because we are so concerned with everyone around us. Selflessness is to be prized but at what cost? Why are we afraid to admit that our pain is bigger than us. Is it the remnants of the "stiff upper lip" a throwback to our empiric past or is it a survival of the fittest mechanism?
There are some life events that fundamentally change who we are, hopefully we learn to live with the changes and can take the steps towards a fresh start but with any wounds comes scar tissue. You can try and excise the scar but what do you leave in its place?
Until we as a community embrace pain as a consequence of life and allow the free expression of this pain then I fear that sadly Loris' story will not be isolated but one of a chorus.
Showing posts with label sadness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sadness. Show all posts
Friday, January 28, 2011
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
When Words Fail
I must firstly apologise for my blatant neglect of my little space of blogosphere. I needed some time away to reassess, reaffirm and in general recharge.
I logged on today with so much to say but when you stare so much sadness in the face it's hard to know where to begin.
The truth is some things just make no sense. There is no rationalisation for some events that touch and even bruise our lives. The distinction needs to be that they bruise our lives not our spirits. Most of us during our lifetimes will be touched by sadness that has no depth but there is resilience in our beings, we continued, changed but ultimately we continue.
What we can offer to those around us in this time of despair is understanding, patience and love. Just knowing that you aren't alone in the middle of the night when the air is still and the distractions of the day have ceased. Sometimes knowing that you are loved is just enough to keep you facing one more day.
To Lori, Lulu and those affected by the floods in Queensland I give you both my love and my being in any capacity that it is needed.
I logged on today with so much to say but when you stare so much sadness in the face it's hard to know where to begin.
The truth is some things just make no sense. There is no rationalisation for some events that touch and even bruise our lives. The distinction needs to be that they bruise our lives not our spirits. Most of us during our lifetimes will be touched by sadness that has no depth but there is resilience in our beings, we continued, changed but ultimately we continue.
What we can offer to those around us in this time of despair is understanding, patience and love. Just knowing that you aren't alone in the middle of the night when the air is still and the distractions of the day have ceased. Sometimes knowing that you are loved is just enough to keep you facing one more day.
To Lori, Lulu and those affected by the floods in Queensland I give you both my love and my being in any capacity that it is needed.
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